The Lie Most Musicians Believe
It sounds something like this: If I just hold on long enough, if I grind hard enough, if the right person finally hears me — everything will change.
The mythical ship will come in.
The lucky break will strike.
The gate will open.
The industry will anoint you.
And suddenly, all the struggle will make sense.
But here’s the truth no one likes to say out loud: waiting for the music industry to save you is one of the fastest ways to burn out, grow bitter, and wake up one day wondering where your life went.
The highway to musical fame is littered with lives. Talented ones. Hardworking ones. Passionate ones. People who gave everything to a dream that was always dependent on someone else’s permission.
The disappointment of waking up and realizing you aren’t where you thought you’d be is soul-crushing — and quite frankly, unnecessary.
Stop Chasing the Neon Rainbow
Don’t stop dreaming.
Don’t stop believin’ (and hold on to that feeeeeeling;-)
Just maybe stop chasing the neon rainbow.
Stop waiting for validation from a system that was never designed to nurture artists — only to monetize the ones that survive the gauntlet.
You don’t need a massive machine or an insane budget to build a life you’re excited about. You need clarity, courage, consistency, and the willingness to take ownership of your own path.
Yes, it may look different than the fantasy version you once imagined. You may not have a tour bus, a glam squad, or a team of twenty strategists plotting your every move. But what you can have is a life where you wake up energized instead of resentful. A career that reflects your values instead of someone else’s agenda. A creative life that actually belongs to you.
Burnout is real. And it often comes from chasing someone else’s version of success instead of building your own.
Redefining What “Success” Actually Means
The industry loves a narrow definition of winning: charts, headlines, viral moments, awards. But there are a thousand meaningful ways to build a music career that feeds your soul, your family, and your future.
Ask yourself what actually excites you — not what looks impressive on paper.
If You Love Live Performance
Then book it. Build it. Grow it. Make it undeniable.
If You Love Writing
Write obsessively. Create the best demos you possibly can. Learn the craft of pitching. Hire pitch agents. Build relationships with publishers and collaborators. Let your songs travel farther than your face ever could.
If You Love Building, Teaching, or Creating Community
If you love producing, mentoring, storytelling, content creation, or helping other artists navigate the maze — lean into that. There is room for all of it now.
The industry is experiencing a boom like we’ve never seen before. Technology has blown the gates wide open. Distribution is accessible. Education is everywhere. Audiences are global. Niches thrive. Independent careers are no longer the exception — they’re becoming the rule.
The Time Is Now — Not Someday
So don’t find yourself ten years from now crying into your beer telling the same tired story:
“The timing just wasn’t right.”
“People weren’t ready for me yet.”
“If only someone had given me a shot.”
The time is now.
Your talent is now.
Your opportunity is now.
Identify your strengths. Polish your weaknesses. And remember — it is not failure to pivot. It is wisdom.
Lean Into Your Natural Gifts
If you always dreamed of being the lead singer in a band, but the world keeps responding more strongly to your songwriting, your melodies, or your production instincts — lean into that. There is no shame in highlighting your greatest asset.
We are all born with natural gifts. Let them shine. Refine them. Let them carry you further.
Don’t be disappointed if what you think you want isn’t actually your strongest attribute.
Because here’s the real question:
Do you want to be struggling, forever chasing validation… or successful, creating impact, income, and opportunity?
Most people who reach a high level of success in one lane eventually get the freedom to explore their original dream anyway — because recognition opens doors. Stability creates leverage. Momentum drives options.
When you stop begging for a chance and start building something real, the industry often comes knocking — not as a savior, but as a partner.
That’s the irony no one tells you.
Build the Career You Actually Want
You don’t build a career by waiting to be chosen.
-Ashley Lewis
You build a career by choosing yourself.
Chart your own course. Create the work. Build the audience. Learn the business. Protect your energy. Play the long game. Let curiosity guide you more than comparison.
If the right deal comes your way someday — congratulations. That’s icing, not oxygen.
But don’t put your life on hold waiting for someone else to validate your worth.
Go live a creative life you’re proud of.
Go build something sustainable.
Go make yourself undeniable — not by chasing the spotlight, but by becoming excellent, consistent, and deeply rooted in what you love most.
The ship isn’t coming.
So build your own.
-Ash
